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I have moved! (with the correct links)

My apologies, the previous email did not have the correct links, so let’s try this again, shall we?

I have moved!

And I am so excited for the many possibilities that my new site will give me!

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Don’t come down from that wall! Pt. 6

And I sent messengers unto them, saying, I am doing a great work, so that I cannot come down: why should the work cease, whilst I leave it, and come down to you?” Nehemiah 6:3

We have looked at several things that are used to either distract or discourage us from this very high calling that our Lord has given us.  Things that would allure us to come down off of our God-given duties. Have you been able to relate to any of them?  I certainly can write all this from experience!  It seems daily that many of these things creep up to bring me down.

Today we are going to talk about a couple of specific temptations to distraction that are very prevalent, especially in our technical age.

The Telephone:

How many times are we distracted off of our duties and tempted to neglect them because of needing to just make one more phone call.  Or just as we were to engage in a heart to heart talk with our children, the phone rings.  Have you ever noticed how often that familiar ring will begin right as you sit down to family worship?  And it is not uncommon to have a quick call to a friend become a long, engaging conversation.  Even calls to “encourage” another sister, can actually be pulling us from our loved ones, if they are made at the wrong time.

I had a friend at one time choose to go on a friend phone fast for a while.  She realized that her focus had to be in her home and with her children.  I am all about Titus 2, godly mentoring, profitable phone appointments between sisters, but it all must be placed in its proper position so as not to sacrifice the best for a good thing.

But perhaps in our culture is an even bigger temptation to distraction is…

Email, Social Media, and ahem Blogging:

I love to blog.  I love the computer.  I love getting and writing emails.  I have a smart phone and use it often to check my Facebook.  But, let’s face it…it is a double-edged sword, isn’t it?  These things can be wonderful tools, but can get out of hand quickly.  Just one more email.  Did someone post something new on Facebook?  Did I get any blog comments?  Oh, I need to answer that comment quickly. And before I know it, chunks of time have passed by.  My dear husband is constantly reminding me that he does not want me neglecting the very thing I am blogging about.

I can be home physically with my children, but not home in my heart.

So how can we help combat these temptations?

~First, we need to pray daily for our priorities to be the priorities the Lord would have for us.

~Consider turning off the phone, or using an answering machine to screen calls during those critical times of the day, when mommy is most needed.

~Carve out time that you know you will have to do these things.  In my home, we have a rest time where if you are not napping, you must be quiet, or outside to give me some down time.  I have let that slip and have tried to enforce it again lately. During that time, I can rest if I need to, or more often I will be on the computer, blog, etc.  Also, my husband does overtime once or twice a week from home, after the children go to bed.  I also have that time to work on this blog or whatever I feel needs doing.

~Ask your husband if he would give you a chunk of time where he can keep the children when he gets home from work for you to have that long, engaging, edifying conversation with another sister in Christ once in awhile.

I am a very social person.  I am thankful for things like email and Facebook.  And I love blog hopping.  But, if it is not controlled we can be as the woman in the scripture whose feet are often abroad without ever stepping foot outside our home.

I am sharing these things because they are constant challenges to me.  So, let’s encourage each other to stay up on the wall today!  I would love to hear any of your thoughts!

My next post I will seek to wrap up this series in speaking of two last temptations we face that is common to most of us.  Stay tuned!

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What’s in your wallet (er, couch)?..Link-up!

Written Saturday:

You have all seen that commercial,”What’s in your wallet” right?

It was a lovely Saturday afternoon and I don’t know about you, but by the time Saturday comes around you are sure that an atomic bomb went off while you sleep!  It used to be that on Saturday evenings when the little ones went to bed, Steven and I went into turbo mode and worked like madmen for a couple of hours just to restore an appearance of order.

Now?  Many hands make light work.  I gathered things that were lying around in the main part of the house and put them in the “manly room” where the bulk of the disaster already was and called the troops in!  Yup, especially when Dad is there to declare “Move, move, move!”  It becomes a game and everyone is scurrying like little ants.  Wallah!  It is straightened again.

Next, I can go to work doing the detailing I so enjoy.  And the vacuum comes out and Mom does her therapy (I know, I am a sick woman to love such therapy but I really do!)

And that’s when it happened.  I decided to clean out under the couch cushions (you know, that place where last years candy bar is still hiding and when your kids find it, you can tell them they can still split it…because there are so many preservatives in it, it won’t have spoiled.)

Really, it hasn’t been that long since they were cleaned, but the things down there accumulate faster than the snow up in the mountains of Kilimanjaro.

Then the thought came to me…what a fun link-up for those brave enough to really be honest.  So here is the challenge this Monday morning.

Go clean out under your couch cushions and tell me what is under there.

Here is my list for all to see:

Thermometer case

Playing cards

Pen/Pencils

Hairbands

A dirty sock

A baby outfit

One of my boys lost knives

and…

ahem…

A wet diaper…ewwww!  (Mind you, it was nicely wrapped up.)

Ok, your turn.  Leave me a comment, or link up!

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5 Minute Friday-Every Day


I am participating in 5 minute Friday.  Join the fun and blog hop to others doing the same.  The idea is to take 5 minutes and just write without worrying about editing…just letting the words flow from the fingers to the keyboard.  So here goes!

GO:

Call me over-tired.
Call it having my seventh baby
Call it getting older.
But I don’t have it all together.

I feel like I am missing part of my hard drive

Every day I have 7 hungry birds needing food for their bodies, nourishment for their souls and knowledge for their thirsty brains.

Every day they need it again and again.

And there is only one of me.

My son describes it as having 7 things to plug into only 3 ports in my computer.

Every day I am walking into a room and forgetting what I went in their for.

But…

Every day I am so abundantly blessed that it is overwhelming.

Every day I have so many kisses and hugs I receive.

Every day I am so very, very rich.

Every day I receive fresh mercies.

Every day I have a great God.

Every day I am being sanctified, made more like Christ through self-denial.

Yes, I am thankful for each day.

Every Day.

STOP!

Whew that was fun.

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Don’t come down from that wall! Pt. 5

And I sent messengers unto them, saying, I am doing a great work, so that I cannot come down: why should the work cease, whilst I leave it, and come down to you?” Nehemiah 6:3

Our last several posts in this series we have focused on things that the enemy of our soul uses to tempt us to come down off of our great work as mothers. There is one that many of you may wonder why I have not mentioned yet.

Fatigue.
Lets face it, we get exhausted.  Whether we are up in the middle of the night with newborns or sick children, or whether it is the drain mentally in answering the next “mama” that comes our way.  I have found that even the teaching of homeschooling drains me.  It may be as simple as learning their numbers and letters, but mentally I still find it takes it out of me.  As the children get older, they can tie their own shoes and cut their own food up, but now there is heart to heart talks.  Weighty questions and issues of life are matters of everyday discussion. Often the busyness and noise around me tends to mentally fatigue me as well.  So whether you are fatigued physically, mentally or both here are a few tips…

1. Get to bed at a decent time.  Whoa, those who know me will be saying, “Did she just say that?”  I am the queen of night owls.  I mean, this is really strange, but I don’t like going to sleep.   And it doesn’t help matters when the children get in bed later and I need that quiet time with my man at night.  So the temptation is to stay up too late.  I am preaching to the choir, people.  If I ever master this one it will be amazing. But, they say it is true.  I should try it some time.

2. Exercise/Vitamins.  Oh boy, maybe I should stop writing this now.  I really need to get back exercising. I do take vitamins though, and for women the B’s are especially important.  One simple thing I have found amazingly helpful lately has been to lay out all my pills for a couple of weeks ahead of time in those little boxes (what are those things called anyways?).  It is so much easier to pop them all in my mouth quickly, then opening up each bottle every time.  Simple, I know, but so helpful to me.

3.  Make sure your hormones and thyroid is regulated.  As women, we are very prone to imbalances and it is crucial we address these things.

4. Make your time with the Lord priority. It may not be that you can take time immediately in the morning.  Sometimes our little ones are up and going at such a speed first thing in the morning that nap time or another time in the day is easier for us to search his word. But seek to carve out some time that fits for you. Seek prayer from your husband and another like-minded friend as well.

5. Take time for yourself.  Ok, for years I thought this was selfish.  A committed mom would never need a break! But, I have learned over time that it is helping our families to take care of ourselves.  We will do better when we take some recharge time.  So find a bit of time for a hobby, whether that be reading, taking a walk, make a scrapbook, blogging, etc.  All for the purpose of being a fresh mommy and wife.

6. Enlist your children to help. With many of our lifestyles, being home all day, schooling our children, having a large family, this equates to messy homes.  But, with a large family also come many hands.  And many hands make light work.  Have everyone pitch in to return an appearance of  order.  Even a toddlers can use a toilet brush or take a washcloth and wash baseboards.

7.  Don’t hesitate to get outside help.  I have had  different “mother’s helpers” often over the last many years.  What a blessing it has been!  My pride will sometimes make me feel like I shouldn’t need the help.  But you know what?  I am doing several full times jobs at once.  Just teaching school can keep you busy.  Let alone taking care of a newborn, cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.  In times gone by, when communities were more tight-knit there were often older ladies that would help young moms.  Even the Prov.31 woman rises to give meat to her maidens.  I also have a great burden for those young ladies that are waiting to marry and how they fall through the cracks in our society. They are encouraged to go out and get a career, when they could be learning and preparing to be their own keepers at home, by helping others.  I was a mother’s helper as a young girl and it was such a good experience for me.  Now I am on the other side and see what a great blessing it is. But, that is probably another post.

8. Lower your expectations. We have already had a post on this one.

9. Learn how to play. Speaking to the choir again, here!  I am a task oriented person and have my mental checklist that drives me.  I hardly ever stop to enjoy life.  My dh on the other hand, being the hardest working man you have ever seen, still finds time to enjoy life.  His quote? “You’ve got to live.”  So maybe today, put the cleaning on the back burner, tell the children to put their workbooks away and play with them.

10.  Realize this is a season. I know this is so over-used nowadays…but it is still true.  My oldest will be out of the house probably in 5 or 6 years.  That hits home.  They are growing up so fast.  They only will be this needy for a time.  And then we will miss it.  We will get all the sleep we want and have free time…but we will long for these days again.

Next post …the telephone and social media.

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Be still…

One of the pastors that I hold very dear to my heart blogged a couple of days a post that all of us would do well to heed. His words can be applied to mom as much as to those in the ministry. For are we not “in ministry?”  We are ministering to our little ones every day, tending to the eternal souls of these precious lambs.

In the process of our busy-ness we need to hear God’s voice “Be still and know that I am God”. We need to take time to savor Him, to meditate upon Him, to walk in the garden with Him.

So please, take the time to read this.

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