Category Archives: Marriage

I Have A Voice- Guest Post

Today I’m participating in the Ultimate Blog Swap. You’ll find me posting over at  Impress Your Kids about teaching our children the art of hospitality and I’m excited to welcome Jasmine from Far Above Rubies to A Mothers Heritage:

There is no subject in the Bible that we should take more seriously than the mouth. It has the power to bring blessings or destruction – not only to our lives, but the lives of many others (Proverbs 18:21).
Our mouth gives expression to what we think, feel, and want, but it does not always communicate according to God’s word.
A woman can do a great deal of harm or a great deal of good according to the use she makes of her tongue.

5 Biblical Principles for Communication:

Lovingly
A woman can speak in various languages, and that with the greatest elegance and fluency, and it would neither profit nor delight if she is void of holy love. (1 Cor. 13).
Softly
A right cause is better pleaded with meekness than with passion. Peace in our home can be kept by soft words. When husbands, children, and friends are provoked, speak gently to them, and give them good words, and they will be pacified (Proverbs 15:1).
Psalms, Hymns, and Spiritual Songs
God’s women have reason to rejoice, and to sing for joy. We are to sing and to make melody in our hearts, not only with our voices, but with inward affection.  A thankful heart turns away a complaining spirit. Our inward joy shines forth outwardly in conduct and attitude promoting God’s glory.
We are appointed to sing psalms for the expression of our thankfulness to God (Eph 5:19).
Fountain of Life
If a woman is filled with God’s word, then she is able to inject others with life giving words. How industrious a woman is by communicating her goodness. A woman’s mouth, the outlet of her mind, is a well of life; it is a constant spring, quenching the thirst of the weary.
Submissively
Sara’s expression in calling her husband, Abraham, lord was one of submission and servitude; showing him reverence and acknowledging his superiority over her. And all this though she was declared a princess by God from heaven, by the change of her name (I Peter 3:6).

We must understand that true power and beauty comes in our willingness to submit to God-given authority. There is no greater feminine virtue than a woman who chooses to come under a husband in submission to a glorious and all knowing God.

Have a blessed day building up your families.

Jasmine is the author and writer of Far Above Rubies, a ministry dedicated to promoting biblical womanhood.
You are welcome to join her on Facebook and Twitter.

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Meet Our Family…

I thought I would pepper this blog sometimes with more personal posts about our family and our lives here on the homestead.  For those of you who do not know me, maybe it will give you a glimpse into our family.  Our lives are crazy, funny, sometimes stressful, but there is never a dull moment around here. To begin, I would like to introduce you to our family…

Today, I will tell you about my wonderful, amazing husband.  My man of 16 years is such an example of a faithful husband and marvelous father.  I am so blessed to be at the side of this dear man!  He is a true gem.  Dh is the most cheerful, energetic, person you will ever meet.  He is an introverted extrovert, we say.  Even though he does not mind at all being alone with quiet, he is the kindest, friendliest gentleman in a crowd and makes you feel at home right away.

This man of mine finds joy in every event in life and loves to prize every moment of his time.  Whether he is working or playing he does it with all his heart.  We laugh at the time he was so excited about a “spring” he found in the backyard, only to discover it was a leak in the septic.   Dh is also an amazing father.  Everything in life is a lesson to be learned and an opportunity to be harnessed.  Whether he is eating grapes at the table and quoting the fruits of the spirit as he plucks them, throwing a frisbee out in the back yard, or giving the children the vocabulary word of the day at the table, he is interacting with his olive plants.  He is very faithful in leading us in family worship and takes the instuction of our little ones very seriously.  I thank the Lord that I am privileged to live life at his side.  I always tell him, being the more laid back person I am, my life would have been very boring without him…

Can you tell that I love this man?

Next time I write about our family I will tell you a little something about each of my precious children.  But, tomorrow we have the special blessing of a guest post from Jasmine from Far Above Rubies.  🙂

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Bless your man this weekend!

“The “virtuous Woman” will study to do her husband good, and to avoid doing him harm, all the days of her life. She will be inventive, ingenious, and laborious to promote his comfort, his health, and his interest; will smooth by her sweet words his brow, when wrinkled with care; hush the sigh that misfortune extorts from his bosom; will answer with gentleness the sharp words that in moments of irritation drop from his lips, and will do all this, not by fits and starts when in congenial moods, but continually….

By the happiness which she imparts to him at their own fireside she sends him abroad, not with a downcast look, as if he had left a heavy trouble at home, or carried it everywhere with him; but with a cheerful countenance, as though he had just come from the scene and seat of his chief earthly bliss…”

Dear sisters, may you study and seek to fill your homes with the sweet aroma of love to your husbands this weekend!

Female Piety—The Young Woman’s Guide Through Life to Immortality   John Angell James, (1785—1859)

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16 Years!

On this day, 16 years ago, two lovers and best friends were married. We have had a journey that has been specially designed by the Lord for us. We have had sweet love, tears, struggles, trials, but just as many memories, blessings, joys and laughter together. The Lord has made us more humble, wiser, older, and much richer. He has enlarged our tent and now we have gone from a home of two, to a home of 9. Thank you Lord for your blessing. I love you, Steven!  I am so privileged to journey through life together with you.  I love being your wife!

This picture speaks for itself…

Taken during our courtship…to read our story go to my courtship tab at the top of the page.

Taken last winter while I was still pregnant and my husband still had his manly beard!

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Little Things…

The person who would do great things well, must practice daily on little ones;

and she who would have the assistance of the Almighty in important acts,

must be daily and hourly accustomed to consult His will in the minor affairs of

life.

~E.C. Judson (Adoniram Judson’s wife)

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Springtime

TILT (14/01/10) waiting for spring
I wrote this post a year ago on my private blog and it seems so fitting to post it once again…so many of my thoughts are the same and this could have been written today. Only this spring we are excitedly awaiting the birth of our precious little boy, who is due in less than 4 weeks! Spring is such a poignant season, isn’t it? New life, new beginnings, the warm breeze rustling in the air, promising restoration after sometimes very hard winters. The Lord is so good to give us spring.

Spring 2009

As many of you may know that this has been a very difficult winter for me. We miscarried Baby Sita, I have had some health issues that involved a lot of depression and fatigue. Many of my days have consisted in taking one hour at a time, and learning how to truly rest and trust.

Who is among you that feareth the LORD, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the LORD, and stay upon his God.”
I have been blessed by the help that has surrounded me and the mercies of the Lord at this time of my life.

“My beloved spake, and said unto me, Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away.

For, lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone;

The flowers appear on the earth; the time of the singing of birds is come, and the voice of the turtle is heard in our land;

The fig tree putteth forth her green figs, and the vines with the tender grape give a good smell. Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away.

I have loved Song of Solomon for many years now. The passage above has had a particular sweetness to me, and never so much as now. When I was courting my beloved husband we would write back and forth to each other (as well as long phone conversations and weekend visits). These were the days before email. These letters were very precious. We were to be married in the spring. And I remember S saying to me as it grew closer. “It is springtime, time to build a nest”. On the back of his letters he would write a portion of these verses. “Rise up my love, my fair one and come away, for the lo the winter is past, the rain is over and gone….Arise, my love, my fair one and come away”. Of course as a young bride to be this was very sweet to my heart.
But these verses reach far deeper in my heart and strike a strong cord within me this season as well. This hard winter of darkness and doubts, trials and tribulations has had many tears for me. But, the harbingers of spring are appearing. The sun is shining again. We are beginning to feel the warmth of it on our shoulders just a bit as we step outside. I hear our new baby chicks chirping in the kitchen as I write. Surely, the spring is very close. So, in my heart I am longing for my Beloved Jesus to say to me, “Rise up my love, for lo the winter in your heart is over, the rain of trials is gone…it is springtime for your heart now as well. Time for sweet communion and the light of my grace to pour with warmth over your heart. It is a time of loves, a time for refreshment and quiet peace in your soul. Come away in secret communion with your Heavenly Husband.”
As I have posted before we have a vineyard nearby which each time we go into a particular part of town we see. It is a beautiful spot and we love to watch the changes in this place with each season. We watch with eagerness for the first shoots of green, the sprigs of spring upon these vines..then the beautiful lustre of summertime growth, the grapes appearing and then the harvest. In the fall and winter then the vines are cut way back and there appears a season of deadness. How can these vines every bear fruit again? But alas, the spring comes again..”The fig tree putteth forth her green figs, and the vines with the tender grape give a good smell.”

So today, as the sun is shining and spring is coming very soon, may our hearts also feel the warmth of the Son’s rays in our souls…reviving, refreshing, restoring us with His love.

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Since my love is not like other men…

romantic

‘One of my favorite movies is the movie El Cid.  There is much to learn about following your man in that epic story.  But this is my favorite of all quotes by Jimena:

“Since my love is not a man like other men my life with not be like other lives.”

Do you hear the beauty in that statement, wives?  Why do we compare our husbands with others?

Your man is unique, with talents, strengths and yes, weaknesses, select for him.

And God gave him to you. To you, dear one and not another.

So don’t try to change your man into another.  Pray for him, find and share his vision and see that your life will be specific to fit with your man.

Love your man.

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